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Excerpt from THE TESTOSTERONE
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by Dr. Shafiq Qaadri |
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A MEMBER OF the First Wives Club, Christine, 46, is one
of my favorite patients. I enjoy her frank and open conversation, which
has a dark and biting humor. She was divorced last year after three kids,
two dogs, two renovations, and 15 years of marriage. "Hey, doc, did you
hear about the three kinds of sex?" she asked me in my clinic. |
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"No, Christine," I
replied with a smile. I could see the mischief in her face. |
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"There's three kinds of
sex: house sex, bedroom sex, and hallway sex. House sex is when you're
just married. Everything's hot and bothered. You have sex in every room of
the house, in the bathtub, in the kitchen, on the dining table, kind of
like inaugurating each room. After a while you settle down into a routine.
The passion kind of goes, you know what to expect, it's a habit, so you
only have sex in the bedroom. Hallway sex happens after many years. By
then, you're barely speaking to each other. So when you pass each other in
the hallway, you just say, 'Fuck you.' " |
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Women deserve more.
Over the years, so many women have come to my clinic wondering what was
going on with their men. So many women have endured their men going
through andropause. It's not always dramatic; men will have mild,
moderate, or severe experiences. But knowledge helps. By knowing what a
midlife andropausal man may experience, women can better anticipate,
prepare for, and survive his changes. |
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There's something
slightly warped in men when it comes to getting help. As Christine said,
"My husband would only go to the doctor if something were bleeding or
falling off. That's it." Of course, by that point it's a bit late. Doctors
know that men generally don't like to come in for check-ups, blood tests,
or any examination at all. One of the frustrations of family medicine is
that we could help far more people if they came in for health check-ups,
just general screening tests, earlier than they do. We want you to give us
a chance to prevent problems, and to let you know what changes may be in
store for you. But men don't see doctors; their women do it for them. |
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For example, the
number-one medical killersheart attacks, high blood pressure, sugar
diabetes, cancers, all of these conditions are out there in the community,
mostly undetected, mostly undiagnosed. What's tragic is that most of these
conditions and their consequences are preventable. Men die about eight to
ten years earlier than women do, and hiding from doctors plays a part in
this. |
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One of my medical
colleagues asked, "What's wrong with men? Maybe it's the same gene that
says we won't read the manual, we won't stop to ask for directions, and we
won't see doctors. It's the stiff-upper-lip and grin-and-bear-it thing." I
guess it's part of the expectation that men suffer in silence, that Real
Men don't crybut, unfortunately, they and their partners do. |
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